The Reason Anybody does Anything

I always thought growing up that by the age of 28 I'd be settled in.  Working a job that I loved, raising a family, living in a house that I owned and just generally being on the road to being old.  Funny thing, life didn't turn out like that.  I'm on my second career, looking at some fun debt and living with my brother in an apartment with my lil brother in the town I grew up in/never thought I'd be back in.

And frankly, I wouldn't change a thing.

Sure there are regrets and more specifically things I would have done a bit differently, but all in all, these experiences have made me into what I am today.  And I kinda like who I am.

For those that don't know, I'm seriously considering/placing myself on a track for law school.  Yes, if you're keeping track at home that will be college, paralegal school and law school all within 6 years of graduating college.  Why?  Well, I guess because the reason anybody does anything...because they can :).

Life is about experiences.  Sure, fiscal responsibility is important, but when you're laying on your deathbed what's going to cross your mind?  Your IRA or your experiences?  I've been given the opportunity and ability to jump around.  Don't get me wrong, I have a love for the law and going to law school would not only open up the ability to be me on boss/make extra cash/get into politics (whoooole nother post, I hate the gladhanding that goes into politics and the complexity when it really should be so simple, but again...whoooole nother post) but one of the other reasons I want to go to law school is for the basic reason of because I can.  How many people in life get this chance and even if I fail (it's entirely possible, I tend to fail quite a bit...I call it being human) I can still say I tried.  Should be a heckuva ride.

This post isn't all about me though (granted, it's my blog so I'm gonna bring myself up every now and again, and because I'm awesome) it's about the rest of you that I know struggle with not being in a career, making 6 figures and being "settled in".  Just with the single situation, instead of looking at what you don't have, take a look at what you do have.  You have the ability to experiment and figure out who "you" are without having to worry about wife/kids.  Do you think I'd even consider changing from a career that I enjoy and make a living off of if I had a family to take care of?  Heeeeeeck no.  That would be like picking a whole bouquet of oopsy daisies! :).  Enjoy your freedom and be happy with what you have.  Life's too short to whine and complain about what you don't have.      

Singleness and the Common Man

Happy Friday!!

This coming Memorial Day weekend I have the distinct honor and pleasure to be joining five married couples (and one other single person...for a day) on a trip to Lake Cumberland, KY.  Now I've known all of these folks for 10 years (yes, we are THAT old) so it's not a big deal but it's very interesting how people view singleness, marriage and what your relationship status says about you. 

The college I graduated from and the church in general seems to preach that there is something wrong with you if you aren't with someone.  They spell out life as grow up, go to college, meet your mate, get married right after college, find a job, start popping out babies and your life will be fulfilling through your family.  And you know what, they're right...for some people.  Families are an incredible thing (we all come from a mommy and a daddy, add you and you have a family, that's your "duh" fact for the day) but I'm slowly discovering it's not the end all be all.  I'm not saying I don't love my family because you know I do.  What I'm saying is that family is only a part of life.  Just like sex is only part of a relationship.  It is not meant to define your entire life.

Churches enjoy teaching the Creation story where God points out that it isn't good for man to be alone.  It teaches Song of Solomon and gives relationship advice like it's going out of style.  But I can count on one finger the number of times I've heard about that the Apostle Paul was single for his entire life.  He even extolled his readers (I don't remember where and research just ain't happenin on a Friday night) to stay single if they can so that they can be free to do God's work (not Terrelle Pryor's God's work, actual God's work).

I guess what I'm trying to say is single friends...be happy in your singleness.  There's nothing wrong with you.  There's no reason to lose confidence because your friends are getting married and you aren't.  Enjoy your freedom and use it wisely.  I'll be the first to admit that I sometimes get sad and lonely and wonder why it's just lil ol me...it's only human.  But then I remember, my calling isn't lesser or wrong, it's just different and that's nothing to be ashamed of.

(My writing needs work, that's why I'm doing this...shaddup)   

The Purpose

People blog for many different reasons.  Whether it's to get their ideas out there, get their opinions available in front of the millions that use the interwebs, or just to kill time and talk about their day, there can be no doubt anymore that blogging is a very normal part of life.  I've always been into writing, from doing Sportscenter updates and sports shows in college to writing an article for Columbus Alive (I know, I was published!!  They changed a "darn" to a "damn" though and my mom yelled at me for swearing in the paper) to writing songs and HILARIOUS (ish) Facebook posts.  I've always enjoyed writing. 

The purpose of this blog is two-fold.  One is as an outlet while the other is as an instrument for discussion.  Many of you know that I'm a rather private person and don't say a whole lot unless it's an attempt at humour or general conversation.  I've always felt more comfortable writing out thoughts and feelings so I have the opportunity to get across what I want to say as opposed to saying something and having it come out wrong with no chance to correct what was said.  I've got some (what I consider) interesting questions and thoughts about life in general for future posts and I want to use this to get that info on paper (internets, our generation's paper) and see what y'all think about it. 

Finally, I want to use this blog to live-blog awesome awards shows.  I don't know why I enjoy it so much, I just do.  Don't you judge me.

I swear future posts will be more riveting, I just thought a good place to start was to set a base and offer an explanation for what this is all about.  Any topics and debates that you think would be interesting/want covered by all means let me know and it'll get covered (unless it's dumb, then you'll be awarded no points, and may God have mercy on your soul).  Thanks all and I hope you enjoy!